My new nickname is “you idiot.” That’s what my friends are calling me when they see me yelling into my phone. They’re telling me ‘let go, he is not the one.’ I thought I saw your potential. Guess that’s what made me dumb. ‘He don’t want it, not like you want it. Screaming and cheating, oh girl why do you waste your time? You know he ain’t right.’ You telling me this, I don’t wanna listen…
She runs to you – eyes swollen and bloodshot, cheeks smeared with tears and mascara, begging for your advice. You console her, give her many words of wisdom and sends her on her way, confident that things will be okay and confident that she’ll make the “big girl” decision she needs to make to move on past her troubles - WRONG!
When it comes to my blogs, I’m usually not on a rant, but this is most definitely an exception. This is a ranting blog – hands down. When this blog is read, I’m sure the friend I’m referring to will know it’s her. (Sidenote: We’ll call her Susie for confidential purposes.) If this offends you in any way, shape or form, I truly apologize. I do hope this will give you the final push you need to finally listen to the advice I’ve given you multiple times. If not, I suppose I’ll admit to defeat.
For my readers, I’ll give you guys a bit of background knowledge. Since high school, Susie has dated “Fred” off and on. In the beginning, I was completely pro-Susie-and-Fred. I’m always Team puppy love. It’s so precious! Because of the past situations that Susie brought to my attention, I realized that this was far from a healthy relationship and something that she should no longer be involved in. She was continuously cheated on, lied to and mistreated.
I told her multiple times – you need to move on! She would always say “Chelsea, I’m not going to talk to him anymore seriously this time.”…….I’m sure you can already invision my face right? I understand it’s so much easier said than done when it comes to ending a long-term relationship, but don’t say you’re committing to ending it if you’re not going to commit! There is nothing I hate worse than someone asking me for advice, and doing the complete opposite of what I said! By all means, if you don’t want my advice don’t ask for it! I’m sure I speak for several other people when I say that I’d rather you just not ask for my advice, if you’re going to slap me in the face by going against it. Don’t get me wrong, it humbles me to know that people come to me when they need guidance. But if you are going to repeatedly go against the same advice that I’ve given you constantly, just don’t ask. We can still be cool, but my time is too precious to be wasted.
Susie, it is ridiculous that you continue to put up with this nonsense. You know this. I’ve told you this before. It is time to let go. I understand that you love Fred but there is a humongous difference in loving someone and being in love with someone. Honey, this isn’t love. He makes you cry more than he makes you smile! At this point, I no longer blame him, because you are only hurting yourself by allowing him to hurt you. It’s absurd! In case you’re not familiar, for every blog, there is a corresponding song. In search of a song, I found this one & it can’t be anymore perfect so please have a listen. And Susie, don’t be stupid in love..